We are failing our children. We tell them to clean their room because ‘we’re having guests over’ instead of teaching them shaytaan hates cleanliness. We tell them to return favours to others rather than simply perform a random act of kindness for the sake of Allaah. We tell them to watch what they’re saying and how they’re behaving because ‘people are watching.’ We’re raising a generation of valueless hypocrites that only know the benefits of pleasing people rather than the joys of pleasing Allaah.
When goals are not reached and prayers not answered, do we ever stop to think that God’s apparent silence may be for our own good? We are convinced that we know our own needs, it is true. But needs are often confused with wants, and those things that are wanted - but not needed - are sometimes the cause of our downfall.
Prophet Moosaa (’alayhis salaam) said: ‘O my Lord, the people say things about me which are not (i.e. not true)! So Allaah revealed to him: ‘O Moosaa, I did not make that (privilege) for Myself, so how can I make it the case for you?’
The Qur’an advises the ‘believing men and the believing women’ that the first step towards modesty is to ‘cast down their gaze’ when looking at someone of the opposite gender. The words suggest this either literally, or metaphorically, as a form of respect to another person not to see them for their sexuality. Take that out of the equation, and social relations become less tense and less fraught with the complications of sexual tension.
People want to be judged for who they are, not what they look like.
Don’t think for a moment that your heart is ‘strong’. The heart is a vulnerable fool. It turns more easily than you turn your head. That’s why its called ‘qalb’ (that which turns). Protect it with layer upon layer of guards. And the only guard is the *consistant* remembrance of God.